Friday, October 20, 2006

And Now For Something Serious

My parents drive me nuts. I think it's a matter of principle with them. But this time around, they're doing an exceptional job. Two points have me worried just generally: They are elderly. They live 1200 miles away from me. Add to this that they are not just elderly, but unwell elderly. Mom is on oxygen, Dad just had back surgery and is now using a walker.

But now they're adding another element that has me nearly bonkers. A bit of history to assist.

  • My parents were foster parents from 1975 - 2001.
  • Three of these foster children remained for all their childhood.
  • One of those children (we'll call her Bertha) is now 35 years old.
  • Bertha has not lived with my parents consistently for many years.
  • Bertha has visited often and has always caused some problem or another.
  • Bertha is bipolar, schizo-affective, and aggressive.
  • Bertha is unstable.
  • Last year, Bertha was physically abusing my mother.
  • Mom didn't tell me until Bertha moved to New York.
  • Bertha is moving back near my parents in 3-weeks.
  • Mom is convinced that Mom's therapy this last year has made Mom better, so all will be well now.
  • Mom fully intends to let Bertha in their home regularly "to help out."

And to top all of this off, Mom laughed when I got upset. How's that for deranged?

Yeah, it's true. A pattern emerges - Mom tries to convince me I'm the crazy one.

Crazy Chelle


Barb said...

Sounds like mom has a big heart and is short in memory.

And it's the law.. moms have to drive their daughters crazy at least some of the time.

Anonymous said...

I guess I am luckier than you are. My mother is also elderly and not in good health. The good news is that she moved in with my sister which lives only about 35 miles away. My mother wasn't really able to take care of herself and the house she lived in so the move was made. At least now I know she will be able to get to see the doctor when she needs and has someone to look after her.

Anonymous said...

so u are complaining about ur parents? Why should they adjust for u .. why can't u adjust for them? I am glad ur mom laughed .. better than making her cry.

Chelle & Chel said...

I am not complaining about my parents. I am concerned for their safety. Not sure how one cam so miss that point. Or do you not even notice that an abusive woman is being invited into their house?


Chelle & Chel said...

Barb, yes, that describes my mom. : )

Mike, you are very blessed.


wee lil man said...

seems like you wanted to speak your minds and thats the right thing to do


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